Day 21 - Be Prudent - 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

As I walk on to complete my journey of life's best virtues, one of the most valuable ones is prudence.

When we use our diligence with the right measure of knowledge, research and experience, knowing what is absolutely right in a given situation in our daily life and make the good choice for the benefit of all.
In corporates, the mark of a good leader or manager can be seen through their strength of prudence that reflects in the overall performance of the team. People who are prudent are not just listeners, they are doers who make things happen giving value to others opinions.

In life, we come across so many situations, this is when the quality of prudence comes into practice. When we are aligned with a lot of cardinal virtues of life such as being just, knowledgeful, kind, selfless, willing to change and many more, we can be calm and diligent while making a decision. This may not necessarily be what the world perceives as right, but then this would be the best because everyone has a unique journey and purpose. Prudence comes with ease for mentors and leaders as they know how best to tap at the right talent to resolve a in situation. It comes with wisdom and practice.

🌹🌼Wish you the best in leading a virtuous life leading to a rainbow of wonderful experiences and most cherished relationships for life. After all virtues keep us all divinely connected for a reason. Let that be worthwhile.🌼🌹

 

Day 20 - Be Willing : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

Why do you have to set limitations, when you have the universe out there opening up a magnificent world of opportunities? All you have to do is to be willing to embrace life as it happens and have a strong intent to take the step forward, in order to bring a positive change in your life.

Robin Sharma quotes, ' Change is hard at first,messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.' One cannot agree more because the process begins with the powerful thought of willingness.

The virtue calls for taking responsibility of any choice that you make and taking charge of the process of self transformation as a director and actor. The journey of accepting change and being open to a new way of life, with courage, actually leads to doors leading to infinite opportunities.

Day 19 - Be Forgiving : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

Let go the mistake, take it not as personal. Learn and grow wiser because it teaches each one to elevate their thoughts and create beautiful spaces in the future.
Few years back, there was a workshop as part of my spiritual journey. One of the exercise was to practice forgiveness every morning for certain number of days, consistently. Even though I have read extensively on psychology and scientific reasoning behind spiritual practices, much to my surprise, this was a new experience all together.

To forgive as easy it may seem, at times, the pain or the scar of the impact created by someone's mistake to people around might be deep seated. Forgiveness is a very pure virtue that has been preached by noble kings and the monks. It would come naturally, as it may seem to us. But when we set on our own journey, it shows up characters, who probably do not have existence in our lives in the present day at all, yet the forgiveness routine liberates us from all negative ties to make way for peace. This is very essential because at times mistakes are not intentional yet they cannot be left unattended or taken as granted.

The art of forgiveness leads to graceful culmination of any damage done, whether quantitative or emotional to liberate completely. The learnings from any mistake big or small, helps the doer be mindful and never to repeat the same. While mistakes are quite human, forgiveness adds a new meaning to perceive situations and people the right way. It is about accepting and reviewing the cause and effect, with light and might.
 

Day 18 - Be a Risk Taker : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

When life gives you lemons, and the obvious suggestion says, you focus making lemonade. The idea is to instill the thoughts around looking at the positive side of life and exercise optimism, come what may. There comes a point in time when certain challenges are not meant to signal you to go on and make lemonades, rather you need to understand whether it is the right time to do so. The lemons can be used for a long term purpose such as pickles too.

While the fact of this virtue is that one is clearly able to measure the pros and cons while making a decision, which would at times mean risking it all at the moment.

The greatest risk takers are those who try to make the most of their low times in life with a faith in their path chosen, even when the road seems rugged to all. Eventually while moving along this route, they learn new things and get a new perception about life. They might not be part of the bigger picture of recognition yet they are blending the best virtues within and focusing on inner engineering. They know that lemons when used efficiently will help them look at the myriads of opportunities ahead of them than just lemonade.

Risk takers believe in their gut feeling and never jitters from the solution chosen to confront a situation with focus on their courage and patience to allow the best.

Day 17 - Be Patient : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

There is a famous saying in most Indian households, that the fruit of patience is always sweet. We have all grown up hearing this from our elders, teachers or anyone who really wanted us to understand the importance of this virtue.

The art of patience does not come easily to all. This can be acquired with mindfulness and from one's own experience. There are few things to be kept in mind in order to get the benefit of this virtue in every walk of life.
1. Good things take time, and they come at the perfect time as a blessing to those who wait.
2. There are no short cuts in life. When you want to manifest something really worthwhile, trust the progress even if it is slow.
3. Patience cannot be replaced with any quick mantra. Instant gratification may be applicable for certain things that are based on needs but not for life goals.
4. When patience is the only way out, meditation and mindfulness practice helps to stay calm and focused.
5. Patience is what the ancient monks and saints had in abundance which helped them with other virtues of peace, happiness, kindness and compassion.

While you prepare yourself for the next big, remember to be light and believe in the best with all might. Patience keeps you grounded all along this process of wait, with a great sense of achievement in the end with perseverance.
 

Day 16 - Be Knowledgeable : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

It is said that those who read a lot carry a treasure trove of knowledge in most aspects of life. Scholars and researchers are those who dedicate their live diving in the ocean of knowledge in a topic that they are inclined to, the most.

Successful businessmen have a very good routine wherein they balance their finance and knowledge bank efficiently. I have been blessed to interact with humans who have different lifestyles and professions, they belong to different age group too, the connecting chord with each one has been a powerful experience of knowledge transfer.

The concept of being aligned becomes imperative because then the giver is happy to share as much as the receiver is glad to learn something.

Knowledge is like rowing a ferry like a sailor, wherever you en route to, there is a learning or an experience. It's so wonderful isn't it while we do not know what is it that we tap on the very next moment in life.

Knowledge is the biggest virtue in the universe and there is no dearth of it as much. It is out there in abundance. There is something for every soul to understand, apply to help move on in life as a winner. The ancient kings, queens and warriors inherited it as part of their upbringing or guidance under an able scholar, the knowledge then was pure and profound. Later on, these were documented in scriptures, books and recordings. Technological innovations have made it so easy to explore on things and get information, those which took time for knowledge seekers during ancient times.

Right knowledge through right decipher, stays deep and brings a big change in the world. There's a saying, so much can happen over a cup of coffee, flip the pages and share thoughts that matter to bring a radiant ripple of idea exchange.

Being knowledgeful and humble is what makes a person's aura very powerful!

Day 15 : Be Responsible : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

The word is so commonly used and almost any human who has graduated from the childhood phase, comes to here this virtue being showered generously, on various instances.

The virtue comes with a deep sense of understanding and from one's own experience. Each soul is responsible for his/her thought, word and action. So one has to diligent while carrying out different roles in the family, in the corporate and in the society.

A student has to learn and gain knowledge which will in turn shape his career. They are responsible for the choice of studies.
While working the hands of responsibilities multiply and one has to be responsible for oneself and also for others, in some way or the other. Responsibility here means ensuring that you be of value to others in growing in their career, while you shape yours.

Family and relationships need a different level of responsibility because of the seed of expectation and the maintenance parameters. This is an unconditional bond of love and care so responsibility cannot ever be quantified. The quality and purity is what matters.

Then comes the bigger picture of social responsibility, apart from abiding by the rules of the government and giving a share for the development, there is a sense of freedom that we all enjoy residing in India or in the most liberal and well being society. Being responsible comes with blending many humanist attributes of peace, harmony, equality and prosperity.

With awareness comes responsibility and choice. To make our world and the world around a better place, is our responsibility. When we focus on right thoughts, we are lead to taking right actions. When we take the right actions, we see the best results. So let's be responsible in a positive way by focusing on the right things in life always.

Day 14 - Be Engaging : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

To be detached staying attached to the purpose of helping oneself and others is a virtue that definitely sets a perfect example of a person who can interrelate with others easily and joyfully.

They are humans who are always in the present and believe in living in the moment to the fullest. They add value to the people around them by helping them professionally and personally. They never shy away from standing for the truth and believe in ethical ways at work and in life. Their interpersonal skills are innate and all regard them as a very likable person.

We often get to interact with such amazing engaging humans who are known for their positive vibes. They are good-humored and good listeners. The moment any problem knocks at their door, whatever be the source, they smile and suggest the best solution that will sail people through any tide. They have no room for unhealthy gossip and they focus on happiness. They believe in looking at the brighter side of life even when the tunnel is deep and seems never-ending to many around.

People who are engaging, often touch the lives of the people with a high vibration of humanity and kindness. They are simple and modest. They come as friends, mentors, well-wishers, colleagues and almost anyone who can bring a smile, expecting nothing in return, but your peace and well-being.

Day 13 - Be Just : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

When you align your thoughts based on accuracy with a fair attitude towards life, you belong to the just category. In a society where the rules seems to be deep-rooted in almost every aspect of life, the best way to lead your life is to experience life in non-duality, wherein you are in sync with the guidance of the divine that is best for you and eventually for the rest of the world.

Be just to your very self.
Self that is governed by experience.
Experience that is polished with wisdom.
Wisdom to detach and decide for the highest best.
Best for being just and spreading happiness around.

You have numerous examples of people, who have defied all the rules of the society, to settle for the one that was most fair and logical. It is correct to just be and do all that it takes to find your own peace and happiness. In doing so, one should also ensure that they do not trespass and be unjust to others. Those who are empathetic towards others are able to see beyond and be just while taking the right decisions in life.
 

Day 12 - Be Special : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

The word ‘Special’ definitely radiates a happy feeling to the giver and the receiver.

Every human is endowed with distinct quality that is unique. The ones who are humble and kind are often liked by most of the people. This might not be expressed through words always, but stands implied as positive reflections.

He had the habit of greeting the security guards, each time he entered or left his residential or office premises. It took just few seconds or a minute to check if they were fine, he did it every single day. Even if he was a new guard, he would wish him. It was during the 3rd wave days, when he suddenly caught a flu and left to take care of himself at home, isolating from the world. The challenge was that, he knew nobody as such to help him since he was just 2 weeks new to his present place of stay.

Luckily, he had the grocery stacked up for a week or so, yet procuring medicines was a challenge yet he was hopeful to find a way. While he could reach out to his friends in this regard yet they all stayed quite far. Call it a miracle, one of the security guard, called him, to check on him. It had been 4 days that he ventured out and this chap did notice it. He thanked the guard and explained his situation. It was so kind of the guard to offer help and he got all his medicines at his doorstep, in less than an hour. Not only that, the security would call him each evening to check if he needed something on an urgent basis. He was more than happy to help with no expectation.

Once he resumed going to office, the smile to see him healthy and happy showed on the guards face. He also said, Sir, you always stop by to smile and greet us when others just walk away paying no heed, a special of smile and greeting from you makes our day.

Qualities of Special souls

They are humble, grateful, simple,calm, joyful and kind. They value others and treat others without being judgmental. Their presence is valued even when they are absent. They may be just well-wishers or strangers, yet they have a special aura of respect and humanity. They offer unconditional care and focus on learning to get better through real connections. Each one of us is Special, you have to be one to yourself, to become one for others.

Day 11 - Be a Giver : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

One who gives is blessed with abundance. It is always a good habit to help people, unconditionally. Life is about keeping it simple and making it easy for someone else as well.

With a lot of emphasis on being kind to people, it is seen that givers are quite respectable and avoid any arguments. The focus is on the solution, always. They do their best to bring ease in the process to help team members achieve goals. They are very good listeners and have the humanist instinct to give the best solution to anyone and everyone.

One of the best qualities that industry leaders have is that they give value and respect to people working for and with them. This gives way to building healthy relationship at workplace and in life.

When traversing through myriad routes in life, we definitely get to meet humble givers, who have their specific roles to play. While they reflect their aura with grace, the gesture is reciprocated with gratitude and the trend of inculcating life skills as these.

The world has become wealthy with givers, especially during the pandemic times. People have shown amazing level of humanity through selfless acts of kindness as a giver. Being nice to someone, with the intention of being of good help to them actually attracts peace and a sense of deep satisfaction.

Givers are detached souls and they always look at the positive side of anything, they do not engage in any meaningless arguments yet put across their perspective with a broader vision and problem-solving angle.

Givers are gifted with patience and a great sense of empathy. They understand a person’s struggle or obstacle and offer their support with genuine intentions of motivation and empowerment. The taker feels the magical aura of assurance and dawns a smile of peace with their presence.

 

Day 10 - Be Disciplined : 21 Days. 21 Virtues for Life .

 

“She was slow in writing and scored less in her test papers. She practiced writing each day for 3 months and became a topper in most subjects.”
“He was unable to achieve success professionally because of his habit of distraction. Meditation was not his solution, so he focused on excelling in his subject of interest through mindfulness learning. He received a deserving promotion after 6 months.”
The success mantra of those who achieve something extraordinary in life. It is by practicing self – discipline. All of us are taught this virtue, it is ingrained in our thought laboratory from formal years of education, in such a way that the quality becomes part of our personality.
With tens and thousands of books on how to master this, what actually matters is the daily habits that help in making the difference.
Thankfully, there is no hard and fast – one solution for all procedures. However, there are 10 basic tips that will help you achieve your big goals in life.
1.      Identify your strength and weakness honestly.
2.      Define and write down your weekly or monthly goals.
3.      Conquer your early mornings, the rest of the day is taken care.
4.      Write down 3 daily small wins and a new learning.
5.      Read and learn on topics pertaining to your area of expertise.
6.      Breathe easy, wrap up your day by writing your gratitude journal.
7.      Make friends with an alarm clock, keep your mobile phone away and sleep.
8.      Share your goals with friends and update on your progress
9.      Connect with Nature, walk in the park or plan a weekend getaway.
10.   Prioritize your happiness every day and spread some around.

I also recommend these good books, which I have read to make the road to self-discipline easy.
No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline – Brian Tracy
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance – Angela Duckworth
The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do, and How to Change – Charles Duhigg
 
There are so many ways. Just take a few and practice it daily. Try it to believe that it works.